Hi, I’m T-Ann. I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m a life coach, a speaker, a writer, and lifestyle junkie. I activate and inspire moms to reach their full potential – for themselves, their relationships, their careers, and their kids.
I spent a long time living under the radar, pretending reaching my full potential didn’t really matter to me if everyone else in my life was happy. And at some point, living this way began eating away at my soul.
My life looked pretty normal on the outside until about 10 years ago.
I grew up in a leafy suburb outside of Chicago. Growing up, my life looked pretty average, but, in fact, it was tumultuous, unbalanced, and strained.
I wasn’t raised to have a voice, let alone stick up for myself. As a kid, I learned quickly how to identify stress, pain, and negativity coming through the door. I instinctively became a master peacekeeper, helper, and pleaser.
My experience growing up in an anxious household strengthened my intuitive nature and made me vulnerable, in a good way. I could feel a person’s energy instantly. Little did I know this gift would become my coaching super-power, that my childhood gift of self-preservation would later define my purpose.
I knew from an early age there was something special about me; I knew I could understand and feel people deeply and intuitively.
I remember being a little girl, maybe 7-years-old when I made a powerful decision. I decided my life would be safe, filled with humor, and compassion. I clearly envisioned the marriage and family I would have. I wanted to be comfortable being me. At a young age, I knew what I didn’t want. Then, as I got older, I went about becoming clear on what I did want.
I didn’t know anything about the law of attraction, but I had such clarity about what I desired: a great marriage, a fun family, filled with trust, love, and kindness – and I would create that reality for myself years later.
After finishing high school, I went to college and majored in English with a minor in Personal and Family Development.
In my final year of college, my life was turned upside down. I was raped. I tried to move on, but I couldn’t. I ended up in a spiral of depression. I gained a lot of weight, slept twenty hours a day. I gave up my plan to go to law school. I had no plan and lived life at rock bottom. My memories of that time are still in black and white. I would finally be able to share this story openly – but it took me nearly 30 years.
After graduating from college, I moved to Boston without knowing a soul. I knew I was the only person who could save me. I took a deep breath, stepped off the plane, and completely reinvented myself. I simply decided to be strong, empowered and clear minded. Once again, I was reminded of the power I had to shape my own life.
I moved back to Chicago the following year, after transforming my life and my mindset. I met my husband in a whirlwind and was married a year later. We started a family (twins right out of the gates) a year after that.
I worked full-time as an assistant director at a day-care center while juggling 3 kids and a household, before starting my first business (when my fourth child was born) and discovering my entrepreneurial side.
My first business was a market stall where I curated and sold chic home goods. I also trained in home redesign – where I combined my love of design and people. I was able to help people redesign their homes and their lives, using only what they already owned. To transform the way people lived, played and communicated with their family was hugely satisfying to me.
Around this time, my husband was offered a job in the United Kingdom. We moved to England. It was a fresh start, but also incredibly challenging and lonely being a young family starting over in a different country, dealing with cultural differences.
We lived the ‘high life’ and our time abroad looked perfect in photos. We seemingly had it all. But after a few years, I found myself feeling empty.
I felt like there was a howling inside of me that was growing stronger and stronger, what had been making me happy was no longer cutting it. The vacations, the shopping, the lunches, and my work was no longer feeding my soul. The more ‘things’ I used to fill the void, things like shopping, working out, going out, and traveling, the lonelier I felt.
I knew there was more for me out there. I couldn’t keep living a life that just looked pretty.
I felt trapped by the life I had worked so hard to create! How was that even possible?
I needed more meaning. I needed purpose. I needed to do something for me.
I felt like I had always done everything by the book. I was the good wife, the good mom, the good friend and yet I felt pissed off, resentful, and lonely. I was turning self-sabotage into an art form!
With midlife staring me down, I thought to myself: ‘Is this all there is? Is this how I am going to grow old -feeling let down and resentful? Is this what I want my kids to model? Am I going to settle for a life that looks good or do I want to take a risk and create a life that freaking feels good?’
I knew I had to make some changes.
One day, I was speaking to a friend who said these life-changing words: ‘You should talk to a life coach’.
She recommended a coach, and after a short time of working together, for the first time in years, I had clarity.
And permission to finally be me – not who I was ‘supposed’ to be.
She helped me identify what mattered to me and after a while, she said, ‘Have you thought about becoming a coach?’.
It was like the lightbulb went off. I had thought about becoming a coach for years only I kept putting off my dreams to make sure everyone else reached theirs.
My ability to ‘get real’, to intuitively sense someone’s needs, to relate to a person wherever they happen to be in their journey, to help people see a different perspective – it all fit.
All the experiences I had to overcome from childhood to college, to even ‘acting’ like I had it all together, it finally made sense.
And I had to face the truth of all of it. And get vulnerable.
When I finally surrendered, my life opened up. I went through coaching certification. I never looked back.
My mid-life crisis gave the reality check I needed – I got real about what I didn’t want and started deliberately creating the life (and business) I desired for myself and my family.
I decided to be me. To speak up. To be visible.
I decided to follow my calling.
Even though I was plagued by fears and insecurity (and sometimes still am),
Even when my friends ‘didn’t get’ what I was doing, when relatives thought I was betraying the family for being so open (that’s not how we were raised!), when my own inner gremlins were shouting ‘Who do you think you are wanting more out of life?’
I knew I still had to be me. I had to take the risk. I had to grow.
And then… even in the reserved British culture, clients started coming to me, sharing their issues, their fears, their stories of living lives that felt inauthentic. I realized the very demons I had dealt with weren’t unusual.
These were shared experiences. Women were craving a safe space to discover their voice and their own desires. They needed time to explore their lives, their futures, their decisions, free of judgment. Women were desperate to have a partner who could walk this ‘unknown path’ with them, someone who wasn’t their mom or their sister or their well-meaning friend. Women wanted someone who could guide and challenge them. Someone who had their back at every turn.
About this time, I was asked to join the pastoral staff at Cheltenham College (the school my kids were attending in England.). Little did I know this would start my speaking career. I spoke with students about life and the tough decisions they had to make. The more I spoke, the more the kids and their teachers began to trust me. The more they, too, sought change.
The more they wanted to be empowered.
After nearly 7 years in the UK, we relocated back to Chicago and picked up our lives again but this time, I knew what I wanted, who I wanted to be, and how I wanted our family to live.
I was free to be me. I had to be me, no matter what.
Now, years later – my life is perfectly imperfect. It’s real. It’s mine. I stopped living in react mode and when I finally got ‘real’ about what wasn’t working I started living every day with authenticity. Allowing me to be me. Giving myself permission to shine when I didn’t feel the freedom to do so before.
I get to be me. I get to be loved. I get to have connections.
I knew part of this process would be becoming visible – not just to those in my life but to the world.
I started to share my story and my experiences and being visible about who I was, and what I had overcome.
Being authentic has allowed me to have a voice and given other’s permission to speak up.
My articles have been featured in Time, Prevention, Yahoo Parenting, The Good Men Project, PopSugar, and more. I work with clients all over the world who want to reach their full potential, who are tired of feeling like they don’t have control, who want to feel confident and enjoy deep connections with those they love.
My purpose now is activating and inspiring women to reach their full potential. My purpose is to help women discover their blind spots, switch up their perspectives, make small but powerful changes so they thrive in their lives, their careers, their relationships, and their parenting.
I know what it’s like to feel like you’re lost when you look like you have it all.
I know what it is like to no longer love a life you signed up for years and years ago.
I know how scary it can feel to admit certain aspects of your life are no longer bringing you joy.
I know the determination it takes to believe in yourself and your dream when circumstances make it look like the dream isn’t possible.
I know what it feels like to step back and realize that only you can save yourself.
I know how terrifying and overwhelming it can feel when you stand on the threshold of change.
And I know the freedom and joy that comes from giving yourself permission to be YOU.
I am living proof that when you show up for yourself, imperfection and all, that’s when life starts for you.
The freedom you so desperately desire is on the other side of you being vulnerable, being visible, and being authentic.
Don’t settle for one more day for a life that isn’t you. I’m proof that it’s NEVER TOO LATE to get real with your life. And being YOU is the only qualification.
A restart is only ONE decision away.
What does my life look like now?
Empowered. Peaceful. Fun. And deliberate.
I now think about my choices, I choose my thoughts, I choose where I put my energy and I no longer live for ‘supposed to’. I think about what I want for myself, my career, my relationship, and my family. I know that everything is a choice. The way I show up in the world and how I react is a choice.
Really, I’m just a girl from the ‘burbs who decided to stop hiding, stop reacting and finally decided to save herself.
I know every step I have taken, every challenge I have overcome brought me to this point. I know that my defeats, my challenges, my self-doubts, and my pain were the necessary path that allowed me to became me. It is because of these low times, not in spite of them, that I became the best version of myself.
I purposefully built a coaching practice and a writing career that allows me to utilize my gifts. I get to serve people, to dig deep, and help my clients discover the parts of themselves they have been hiding or have lost sight of.
I get it. I have been there. And I know what it looks like to get on the other side.
I now get to serve clients all over the world, spend time with my family, share my story, write for global publications and inspire heart-centered women who feel trapped in their otherwise beautiful lives.
I had to stop pretending to love what I didn’t. And give myself permission to be who I was really called to be.
We tend to overestimate our problems and underestimate what it takes to solve them. I’ve got your back. I know you can do this. I know you can empower yourself. I know you can show up for yourself and your family even if it feel risky.
Don’t wait for ‘one day’ or ‘retirement’ or for your partner to change. Don’t wait for a time when your kids ‘behave’ or ‘leave the nest’. This matters, you matter.
And you are more powerful than you can ever imagine. You have everything you need inside you right now to create what may seem impossible.
Be vulnerable. Be Visible. Be Authentic. Take a risk. Trust me and trust yourself. Discover the life you have been so desperately seeking.
Trust me, it’s freaking liberating on the other side.
Your partner in freedom.